letting go, pro-actively (because passively waiting is passive-aggressive)
“Active letting go” is not to be confused with “passive letting go,” whereby life rips stuff out of your grip, or you back yourself into a corner, or your responsibilities get so burdensome that you have to offload them just to stay afloat. Active letting go is a little more – pro-active. It’s a practice. It’s awake. It’s somewhat exhilarating (except for the agony of it.)
- Steel leads to softness.
Imagine ripping off a bandage; dropping an heirloom off at the thrift store and resolving to not go back to get it; kissing him or her that way for the last time and tearing yourself away because you need to grow in the other direction; boarding the plane with a heavy heart. When you steel the nerve to be tough enough to let go, you stride across a sacred line. And on the other side, Tenderness is waiting, and She’s very proud of you.
- There’s always more to let go of.
Active letting go is limitless. Just surrender to the endlessness of it.
- It’s always painful.
From wince to damn near crippling, letting go is gonna hurt. Face it. Rock it. Revel in the beauty.
- You can let go in pieces…
…and even take baby steps, but you can’t avoid the pain that surfaces when you fully commit to letting go.
- Acceptance is your balm.
When you accept that the pain of letting go is part of the deal, your let-go wound will heal faster.
- The odds are in your favor.
Out of, say, 100+ people I’ve talked to about letting go of stuff – material and emotional – 88 percent of them wished they’d done it sooner, and 97 percent of them have no regrets whatsoever. Only 3 percent are still uncertain. When you let go, the odds are stacked in your favor.
Editor’s Note: Danielle LaPorte is the creator of WhiteHotTruth.com, which has been called “the best place on-line for kick-ass spirituality.” She is the author of The Fire Starter Sessions: A Digital Experience for Entrepreneurs, an inspirational speaker, former think tank exec, and news show commentator. You can read all of Danielle’s EcoSalon guest articles here, and find her on Twitter @daniellelaporte.