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‘Yes Means Yes’ is an Awesome, No-Brainer Sexual Safety Measure

Slut walk

While “no means no” should never be eliminated from anyone’s vocabulary, it may be time for us all to learn an even better sexual safety phrase.

You’ve all heard the saying, “no means no,” right? It’s a saying everyone should know from young childhood onward. Unfortunately, though, many people who have been sexually assaulted don’t get the chance to even say no. Often times, they are frozen in fear or disbelief, or are drugged, or passed out, and unable to respond.

In California, lawmakers are considering a measure that would require all …

Why Do Women Cheat? It’s Obvious, Says Science: Sexual Healing


ColumnWhy do women cheat? A recent study has found – prepare to be SHOCKED – that they cheat because they’re horny.

The fact that we needed a study to uncover this deep, dark mystery is the real problem here – not the fact that women are sometimes compelled to cheat. We live in a world that still – in 2014, for god sake’s – is shaken when women admit that they need sexual release.

Why do women cheat? For the same reasons men do. Yet the Internet, upon discovering this study, was shocked …

9 Ways to Tell if You’re More Than Friends or His Filler Girlfriend

Holding hands

How to tell the difference between being more than friends and friends without benefits.

So there’s this guy. You hang out all the time, he texts you all the time, he takes you everywhere all the time – but things have never gone to the next level. Are you best friends, are you going to become more than friends, or are you a filler girlfriend?

“The filler girlfriend is someone who fills in until someone better comes along,” says relationship expert April Masini. “Much of the time guys want a date …

What Do Women Really Want in ‘Being Wanted’? Sexual Healing


ColumnWhat do women really want? That is a question that has long been mired in confusion and even subterfuge.

You can blame the usual suspects: porn, patriarchy, and patent disregard for women’s voices through many centuries. But the truth is that “wanting to be wanted” may be sabotaging your relationships and sex life more than you realize.

I first came across the “wanting to be wanted” syndrome a few years ago when I read a book with exactly that phrase in the title. It was called “Women and Desire: Beyond Wanting to Be …

How to Save a Relationship From Falling Apart


If you want to learn how to save a relationship before it turns into a “Blue Valentine” sequel – well, read on.

Once upon a time, you fell in love with your sig-o – and now your relationship’s turning to crap faster than you can say spinster. You’re not even sure where it started to unravel (seriously, where’s a fairy godmother when you need one?). Maybe it was the night you had to cancel your movie plans because of work. Or maybe it was when you stopped pretending to like his sister. Or …

Beyond ‘Fifty Shades’: What’s the Real Deal with BDSM? Sexual Healing

50 shades of grey

ColumnThe entire universe knows that the “Fifty Shades of Grey” trailer was released last week, so if you don’t – where on Earth have you been?

I chatted with Rachel Kramer Bussel, editor of “The Big Book of Submission: 69 Kinky Tales,” about kink, BDSM, and how we can go beyond “Fifty Shades”. You know you want to.


Stefanie Weiss: What’s your quick and dirty definition of BDSM?

Rachel Kramer Bussel: I usually just define the acronym – bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, sadism/masochism, which can …

Yes, They’re Real! 10 Myths About Women With Big Boobs


Women with big boobs enjoy a lot of benefits, but there are myths to be set straight, too.

I feel a Dr. Seuss story coming on: Left Boob, Right Boob. Big Boobs! Little Boobs! Boobs, Boobs, Boobs!

How many different myths about women with big boobs are there to be perpetually and consistently misinformed about? Even in 2014 we still don’t understand female anatomy as well as we should, and no woman feels that more than a woman with big boobs.

Here are some of the biggest myths about big boobs. We’re setting the record straight.

1. They’re not

The Sex Spreadsheet, Untangled: Can You ‘Owe’ Someone Sex? Sexual Healing

sex spreadsheet

ColumnA petulant husband recently emailed his wife a sex spreadsheet, detailing all the moments she’d rejected his sexual advances during the previous month. She posted it on Reddit, where her sexcuses quickly went viral. The Internet had a solid laugh.

Aside from the much-needed LOL we got from the sex spreadsheet story during a week of grueling, awful news, it brings up an important question – is it possible to owe your partner sexual satisfaction in the same way you owe payments on your student loan? In short, no. But it’s …