Comments on: From the Marriage Sucks File: Scientists Say Sleeping Together Ruins Your Health

By: Maggie D.

Maggie D. — Mon, 30 Aug 2010 14:53:33 +0000

My husband tosses and turns and snores. Her sticks his arm under my pillow and thinks that snuggling is romantic, when all I want to do is flip onto my stomach and doze off with my head on a soft squishy pillow (not with a big hard arm underneath it – this makes my neck hurt!). I have to wear earplugs to bed just so I can get SOME sleep. Then he wonders why I am cranky in the morning.
I like when he goes to work for days at a time, then I can catch up on my sleep. I wake up happy and serene after a refreshing uninteruppted nights sleep.

By: Laura Bachner

Laura Bachner — Fri, 13 Aug 2010 20:07:43 +0000

Well I can honestly say that my husband’s graveyard shift has ruined our marriage.
In November of this year it will be 7 years that I have either slept alone 5 days a week or fallen asleep alone the other 2. It has made me angy and resentful of him. I’ve asked, begged, pleaded, cried and yelled and have told him year after year that it was killing us. The only answer i ever get from him is “Ok”. Okay what??? Nothing ever changes. We don’t go anywhere, or do anything. He hates to socialize so everywhere I go, I go alone. If he does go anywhere, it’s by pressure from me and it’s no fun.
It’s not just the graveyard shift that has ruined this, but it definitely is a huge factor in the fact that all I want it a divorce. I no longer love him and if I had the money I would be living somewhere else.

By: Rahul

Rahul — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 09:19:34 +0000

Interesting post. You should be aware that some married couples do sleep in separate rooms.

Speaking of marriage – I’m 30 years old and LOVE singlehood. I love sleeping alone in a big bed, so I can toss and turn and snore (although I don’t snore much) and fart to my pleasure. I’d hate to share my bed with anyone; my bed is like my personal space where, after a long day, I need time alone. I think being single is a blessing.

By: Timothy Cahill

Timothy Cahill — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 18:47:24 +0000

“If it’s not a breakthrough study finding that those helpless men are distracted by breasts or are just distracted in general…”

It is called multi-tasking. That is the ability to not get several things done at the same time. Properly maintained, a state of distraction can safely usher one right through life, and often will shorten it considerably. You’re just providing another example of how men, and what they can teach women, are unappreciated in our culture.

And, if you’ll forgive that /Distraction/, your main idea misses the mark. There is no net increase in sans-Somnolence. I always sleep like a rock, but my wife is sleep-deprived. So, I think, at the end of the night, the whole thing is a wash, right? Now, don’t start throwing vegetables. I’m just making a scientific point, and I do buy her gift certificates to the local spa.

By: Mike

Mike — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 00:02:05 +0000

Speaking as a standard British male, I can attest to the accuracy of this report, although I think it somewhat misrepresents us in the suggestion that we engage in, how can I say, nocturnal mating rituals as a matter of course.

We do not, of course – “only when it is absolutely necessary” is the rule. Any more than that….well, that is an appalling and tawdry suggestion. We leave that sort of thing for those awful sensualist Europeans to fumble with. Instead, we have the cricket.

Also, the real joy of having one’s bed to one’s self in the morning is that it allows you to open the newspapers without eliciting complaints.

This is obviously a much better alternative to “snuggling” and other such nonsense.

By: Luanne

Luanne — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 14:29:43 +0000

Love love love how you wrote that post! I’ve always slept better in twin beds, myself. They say sleeping better is the key to so many benefits, including a better working metabolism, less stress, more weight loss – and when it comes to dogs like Smokey – fewer flea bites!

By: Caitlin

Caitlin — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 22:48:27 +0000

Then again, it’s probably more eco-friendly to have two people sharing a bed! One bed to buy, one set of sheets to wash, a smaller house…

By: Caitlin

Caitlin — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 22:47:14 +0000

Don’t worry, Sara, I got the tongue-in-cheek thing! It was a very funny post, especially the “hitting the hay in different stables” scene. I’m just saying that you’d be giving up a lot too.

By: Sara Ost

Sara Ost — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 18:02:11 +0000

I will say on a personal note I love snuggling and pillow talk, but space is important too. In my old Palisades place I had a big living room, and sometimes I’d wake up and go crash on the couch despite living alone just because the change of space, air and energy was nice.

By: Kim

Kim — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 18:02:04 +0000

Love this post, Sara!! Couldn’t have said it better or funnier or tongue-in-cheekier myself.