Cohabitation with your lover can be exciting and fulfilling. Everyday is an opportunity to learn compassion, acceptance and trust, and grow stronger as individuals and together as a couple. It’s a beautiful thing to grow and share with a mate, and still equally as important to keep a sense of self and individuality. Easier said than done, so here are five habits that will help you maintain healthy relationships as you explore life together.

1. Don’t compromise.

I know we always hear about the importance of compromise, but as relationship gurus know, it isn’t always such a great thing. When we want to do X, and our lover wants to do Y, it’s sometimes better for each to do what they want. You will both be happier that way. And when it comes to spending time together, decide on something you both love.

2. Make space for yourself.

Having a room (or in my case, just a nightstand) that is yours gives you a certain spacial sanctuary–somewhere you can be tidy or messy, you can keep your private things and reserve that space just for you. During cohabitation, it’s so important to set boundaries and hold a space for yourself (mentally and physically) that is truly yours.

3. Share the duties.

With any living (or even work) space comes chores. Sharing those duties and doing them together can make cleaning, or whatever the task is, fun. If sharing duties seems to be an issue during cohabitation, craft a clear plan for who does what in a give situation to help keep resentment out of the picture.

4. Communicate!

This one is huge, and is key for maintaining healthy relationships while engaged in cohabitation. Butting heads and coming into conflict is normal, and it’s healthy to stay true to your opinions. But what’s equally important is being able to listen, learn and discuss with each other openly. You should never be afraid to share an honest opinion. If the relationship is healthy, you will be able to move through it by being present and frank.

5. Continue your own healthy habits.

Yoga, meditation, running–whatever it is, don’t stop just because your lover doesn’t do those things. A release for you might not be for them and that’s okay. Keeping up your own healthy habits will make you, and your relationship, stronger. (And who doesn’t want that?)

See Also:

7 Relationship Tips for Fresh Ways to Spice Up Your Love Life

The 9 Most Empowering Sex Positions for Women: Female Sexuality Remixed 

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Gentle Readers, there are a lot of sex-related facts and factettes out there in this sexy, sex-having world of ours. But let’s get real: most of you are too busy Doing It (sex-wise) to analyze and collate them all into artisanal graph wrapping paper in time for the holidays. Why not let EcoSalon’s elite team of sexual statisticians break them down for you? Here are all the things you need to know this week:

In 1960, the odds that a British adult was cohabiting with an unmarried partner: < 1 in 100

Odds that a British adult is currently cohabiting with an unmarried partner: 1 in 6

Percentage of heterosexual-identified American men who have had recent same-sex encounters, give or take the errant unreported hummer: 3%

Percentage of lesbian and bi-identified American women who have never had a same-sex encounter: 15%

Maximum sentence for anyone convicted of entering into a same-sex marriage or civil union in Nigeria: 14 years

Number of sex offenders arrested in California this year for “child-enticing” Halloween decorations: 5

Number of pornographic shoots that have taken place in the Occupy Oakland encampment: at least 1 so far

Reduction in penile injury rates after circumcision in a South African clinical study: 39%

Number of albums titled “Sex” that have seen global release since 1993: 8

That’s everything you need to know this week! Happy sexing – and to our gay Nigerian readers, good luck, guys.

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