Stop feeling obligated.

Feeding your cat, your dog, your kids, or any living creature who depends on you for food.
Showing up at your job so you can earn a living.
Caring for elderly parents or challenging aunts.
Being on time.
Suiting up and showing up for your team.
Helping your brother stay off the streets.
Attending funerals, family holiday dinners, and buying wedding gifts.
Saying thank you for the thoughtful gift, even though you hate it.
Honoring your word, your contract, your promise — even when it’s incredibly inconvenient.

These are all obvious obligations, right? We’re OBLIGATED to do these things, aren’t we? If we don’t do these things, we could be acting immoral, heartless, irresponsible, out-of-integrity.

“Obligation” is a heavy duty word. You can hardly squeeze a quarter cup of vitality from it. By it’s very nature, it restrains, binds, and requires obedience.

Energetically, “obligation” blows.

Strike “obligation,” insert: “choice.”

You’ve got free will. All of it is a choice. Even if you have to decide to rise to each committed occasion, you are choosing to be moral, loving, responsible, integrous. No victimhood, no obedience, no torture. Just free will. Freed. Don’t you feel lighter already?

Re-frame obligations into conscious choices. Then your obligations become more power-full service.

Danielle LaPorte is the author of The Fire Starter Sessions: A Soulful + Practical Guide for Creating Success on Your Own Terms (Random House/Crown). An inspirational speaker, former think tank exec and business strategist, she is the co-creator of Your Big Beautiful Book Plan. Her next online program launches November 2012, called DESIRE: The Map to What You Truly Want. Over a million visitors have gone to DanielleLaPorte.com for her straight-up advice – a site that’s been deemed “the best place on-line for kick-ass spirituality”, and was named one of the “Top 100 Websites for Women” by Forbes.

You can find her on Facebook and Twitter @daniellelaporte

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How to use your psychic powers on mice and men.

I was working for an organization in New Mexico. Our office was an old compound of adobe buildings, off a bumpy side road, by a field. One summer, we were overrun with mice.

We couldn’t do traps. Cruel. Messy. Yuck. The humane traps (Mister Mouse crawls into a plastic house and a door shuts. He waits to be picked up. You then drive Mister Mouse forty nine miles away and set him free.) Not very practical when you’re dealing with an extended family reunion of mice.

So we did what any self-respecting cosmic team would do with a vermin problem: we meditated. Our plan: one fifteen minute meditation as a group at the end of a staff meeting, and anyone who wanted to keep sending out their own thought waves throughout the day, then, yeah! The meditation: “Dear Mice. We love and respect you. And, this is our space. Please leave within the next two weeks. If you choose not to leave within two weeks, we’ll set traps and kill you. Bless.”

I guess mice can tell time, because in two weeks, nary a mouse turd could be found. They va-moused out of our space.

The moral of the story, in three points:

USE YOUR PSYCHIC TELEPHONE. IT’S FREE!

1. Speak with your mind, grasshopper. Engage your inner resources first. Meditate before you activate. We exert so much physical energy and time trying to make things go our way. Memos, conversations, to-do lists and PLANS–all those damn plans. Try using a different channel to get your point across.

Another case in point: I needed to fire a staff member. It’s something everyone would prefer to avoid. So I sent her this psychic text, “This isn’t the right place for you. Find another job, or I’ll fire you in two weeks.” She quit, head held high. I didn’t need to say a word. Mind-email? We’ll never know, but it’s a lot more efficient than handing someone a box of tissue and their last cheque on a Friday.

2. Have a very clear intention. You can’t be all like, sorta kinda, maybe, possibly wishy washy. State your position and send a clear signal.

3. Intend for the highest and best outcome for all, and deeply accept that it is ultimately out of your hands. Speaking psychically to people (and animals) isn’t about manipulating them. That kind of mind screwing will give you much-deserved karmic migraines. The more win-win your wordless intentions are, the more you increase your chances of being heard.

Does this work for wooing men? “Call me by Friday or I’m dating Buddy.” Maybe. Does it work for getting your building superintendent to clean up the lobby? “Mr. Rogers, the foyer needs love so we’ll all feel better. PS, You’re awesome.” It might. Does it work for sending love, and light, and new possibilities in a potentially all-powerful instant? If you believe it, it does.

If you’d like to make a call…
please dial in to your solar plexus.
Speak clearly, kindly, truly.
Operators are standing by.

Editor’s Note: Danielle LaPorte is the creator of WhiteHotTruth.com, which has been called “the best place on-line for kick-ass spirituality.” She is the author of The Fire Starter Sessions: A Digital Experience for Entrepreneurs, an inspirational speaker, former think tank exec, and news show commentator. You can read all of Danielle’s EcoSalon guest articles here, and find her on Twitter @daniellelaporte.

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