Here’s a fun (and therapeutic) way to make breaking up suck a little less.

No one likes breaking up, but if he’s going to rip your guts out of your ass why not score some cash out of it? That’s the idea behind Never Liked It Anyway, an online marketplace that lets you sell off any and all reminders of your ex so you can get back to the awesomeness that is you. (I’d say I wish this site was around after my last break-up, but my ex didn’t leave behind so much as a dirty sock. He picked our pad clean. You know, like a vulture.)

One of the biggest post-break-up drags is figuring out what to do with the pile of rubble he’s left behind. While the items hold no sentimental value anymore (well, except for pent up rage), you’re not one to throw things away—or burn them—when you can find them a perfectly good home elsewhere. I mean, it’s not the wedding dress or bracelet or handbag‘s fault he’s the worst, so why take it out on them?

Never Liked It Anyway is part online store, part online therapy. Each listing features the ‘real world price’ and the ‘break-up price’, the story behind why you’re selling the item and the ‘bounce back plan’ you’ll be putting the money toward. You can also share what break-up stage you’re in, which range from ‘drinking a lot’ to ‘better than ever’.

Selling the statement necklace she was going to wear on her wedding day, Lida-Maria Lottko writes: “I had found the perfect dress, lost 10 pounds, planned everything out to the last detail. What I hadn’t planned for was for my husband-to-be to get cold feet. Just 3 weeks before the wedding he bailed out.”

Other pre-loved items include a Burberry scarf that was gifted by a “selfish, manipulative, needy jerk,” and a Swarovski bangle from a guy who cheated—after she’d just found out her dad cheated on her mom. Seriously, people. You can’t make this shit up.

But even though breaking up is the shits, Never Liked It Anyway puts a quirky, empowering spin on the whole experience, helping you put your post-break-up plans into motion. Women are selling their ex’s gifts to fund trips to Europe, save for school, and start their own businesses. Take that, douche faces!

Between the opportunity to bitch about my ex, make extra money and get back in the game using NLIA’s killer BounceBackBox, I want to date a guy just to break up, sell my prezzies and meet some fabulous new friends along the way. Best of all, NLIA takes 10 percent of their cut and donates it to the American Heart Foundation. Swoon.

Will you be adding this site to your breaking up survival kit?

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TV shows and movies make breakups look so glamorous, don’t they? In reality, getting over a breakup isn’t that easy, especially minus the montage set to a hit song. I mean sure, you can throw some REM on in the background as you’re choosing between blue track pants or gray, but it’s just not the same.

Unfortunately for us, getting over a breakup takes longer than 120 minutes. Like, way longer, especially if you’re tacking your now defunct relationship onto a long string of epic fails. While it’s easy to sum up what happened using such classics as, “He’s a manchild,” or “He just doesn’t get it,” or even, “He has more hair products than I do,” an important part of getting over a breakup is taking responsibility for your part in what happened.

After comparing your most recent breakup to the ones in your past, you might find some alarming similarities in your behavior that are causing your relationships to fall apart faster than you can say, “It’s not you, it really is me.” Here’s what to do when you’re ready to put on your big girl pants and deal with your mistakes:

1. Fess up
Don’t just look at the breakup itself, but the relationship as a whole: What could you have handled differently/better? Are you having the same conflicts with different guys? If so… womp, womp.

2. Don’t obsess
Take time away from getting over a breakup and do things completely unrelated. When you relax your mind and give yourself time to breathe, insights and answers will appear all on their own.

3. Talk amongst yourselves
Create your own closure. Even though it’d be nice to turn to your ex every time you need answers, by constantly keeping in touch you’ll stall both of your healing processes. Nix contact and vent to your BFF instead – not only will you gain insight from an objective perspective, she’ll also have the guts to tell it like it is.

4. Learn why
By now, you’re over blaming others and justifying your mistakes. (Right?!) Next, dig deep and learn the underlying reasons behind your constant relationship turmoil. For example, why do you always shut down when you need to confront him about something? Or why do you fly off the handle over really little things? Once you know why, you can figure out how to combat your habits.

5. Forgive yourself
While you do rock that cape, you’re only human. Mistakes are inevitable, so there’s no sense in feeling guilty. Instead, look at the intentions behind your actions and you’ll find the person you were trying to be.

6. Claim your baggage
Open your proverbial suitcases and ditch the thoughts, feelings, and habits that are weighing down you and your relationships. Take as long as you need on this step – by the end, you only want to be carrying around about a clutch purse’s worth of issues.

7. Make a promise
Okay, so you’re familiar with your mistakes (and the fact that you’re constantly making them). The next time you get serious, promise yourself you’ll put on the brakes anytime you sense one of your red flag bad habits bubbling to the surface.

Don’t worry, grasshopper – you’ll rock your next relationship like a boss.

What were the biggest lessons you learned from getting over a breakup?

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